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| == Overview ==
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| |image=Guides - People.jpeg | | |Nutshell=shows us that because we interact with other people regularly, it's a perfect opportunity to practice shifting our perceptions. As we shift our perception, we should notice different experiences of Self and Other. |
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| Because we interact with other people regularly, it's a perfect opportunity to practice shifting our perceptions. As we shift our perception, we should notice the following different states
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| * The Self - You are the center of the universe
| | You will find a great range of meditative practices can be done while interacting with people, and especially the skills in this guide. You can do these exercises anytime you are around other people, and most especially in these types of situations: |
| * The Other - Other people exist and experience themselves as The Self
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| * The Self as The Other - a form of empathy, experiencing to some degree what it is to be The Other
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| * The Self and The Other - perceiving no difference between subject and object
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| * Neither Self nor Other - [[Association|Unity]]
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| Beyond these concepts, you will find a great range of [[Attention|Mindfulness]] can be used while interacting with people, and especially the skills in this guide.
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| === When ===
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| You can do these exercises anytime you are around other people, but typically it's easiest when ... | |
| * Eating around a table; at a restaurant | | * Eating around a table; at a restaurant |
| * On a conference call | | * In a meeting or on a conference call |
| * Talking one-on-one | | * Talking one-on-one |
| * On a walk with someone | | * On a walk with someone |
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| * Note when two people are talking to each other and shift your attention from what one person is experiencing and then to what the other person is experiencing from their perspective. Note again that from your own perspective, each of these people is more real than you are. | | * Note when two people are talking to each other and shift your attention from what one person is experiencing and then to what the other person is experiencing from their perspective. Note again that from your own perspective, each of these people is more real than you are. |
| * Remind yourself of [[The Headless Way]] and note that everyone you see except yourself has a head, and a body, and a clear set of attributes that are not perceptible in yourself from your perspective. | | * Remind yourself of [[The Headless Way]] and note that everyone you see except yourself has a head, and a body, and a clear set of attributes that are not perceptible in yourself from your perspective. |
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| == Listening ==
| | |Landmark2=Observe Impermanent People |
| Another practice is to fully devote all your attention to another person. The main points are to give the other person all the time they need to say what they want to say, and to pay attention fully to that person and what they say.
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| === Beginner === | |
| * Practice paying attention to ...
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| ** the tone, emotion, energy, inflection, or any quality of voice you notice
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| ** the topic as if it is the most important thing in the world
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| ** the opinions expressed, and mentally feel the great value of the other person's wisdom and knowledge
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| * Notice if you have an urge to interrupt, or just an eagerness for "your turn" - relax that need until it goes away
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| * Whenever there is a pause, enjoy the pause for its own sake and quality. Let that pause linger, not anticipating more conversation, but welcoming it if it does come.
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| * When the other person asks for your engagement, give it to them fully, focusing on responding to their topic, their energy
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| === Intermediate ===
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| * As you listen, imagine the person as if they are the only person in the world (including yourself!)
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| * Allow your own opinions and thoughts to soften, and feel the sense that at least in The Now, the words you are hearing are the only words that exist.
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| * Allow your own judgement and your entire self to evaporate and discover that person is the new center of the universe. Feel that recentering, feel the real knowledge that they are experiencing emotions and thoughts, and urges and needs. Note that they can feel their own body, and they can focus their attention on sounds and sights from their own perspective and driven by their own needs. Finally, allow yourself to become them for even one blink of an eye.
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| == Related ==
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| * [[Television]]
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