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| * Note when two people are talking to each other and shift your attention from what one person is experiencing and then to what the other person is experiencing from their perspective. Note again that from your own perspective, each of these people is more real than you are. | | * Note when two people are talking to each other and shift your attention from what one person is experiencing and then to what the other person is experiencing from their perspective. Note again that from your own perspective, each of these people is more real than you are. |
| * Remind yourself of [[The Headless Way]] and note that everyone you see except yourself has a head, and a body, and a clear set of attributes that are not perceptible in yourself from your perspective. | | * Remind yourself of [[The Headless Way]] and note that everyone you see except yourself has a head, and a body, and a clear set of attributes that are not perceptible in yourself from your perspective. |
| | | |Landmark1=Listen to Someone Mindfully |
| == Listening == | | |Landmark2=Observe Impermanent People |
| Another practice is to fully devote all your attention to another person. The main points are to give the other person all the time they need to say what they want to say, and to pay attention fully to that person and what they say.
| | |Landmark3=Try Out Other-Centeredness |
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| === Beginner ===
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| * Practice paying attention to ...
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| ** the tone, emotion, energy, inflection, or any quality of voice you notice
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| ** the topic as if it is the most important thing in the world
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| ** the opinions expressed, and mentally feel the great value of the other person's wisdom and knowledge
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| * Notice if you have an urge to interrupt, or just an eagerness for "your turn" - relax that need until it goes away
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| * Whenever there is a pause, enjoy the pause for its own sake and quality. Let that pause linger, not anticipating more conversation, but welcoming it if it does come.
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| * When the other person asks for your engagement, give it to them fully, focusing on responding to their topic, their energy
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| === Intermediate ===
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| * As you listen, imagine the person as if they are the only person in the world (including yourself!)
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| * Allow your own opinions and thoughts to soften, and feel the sense that at least in The Now, the words you are hearing are the only words that exist.
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| * Allow your own judgement and your entire self to evaporate and discover that person is the new center of the universe. Feel that recentering, feel the real knowledge that they are experiencing emotions and thoughts, and urges and needs. Note that they can feel their own body, and they can focus their attention on sounds and sights from their own perspective and driven by their own needs. Finally, allow yourself to become them for even one blink of an eye.
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| |Landmark1=Observe Impermanent People | |
| |Landmark2=Try Out Other-Centeredness | |
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